While you want to make friends, it can be challenging. There are many different reasons why you may find making friends hard. Maybe you have moved to a new area, maybe you’re shy, or maybe you have already got many friends. In this article, you’ll be diving into a helpful guide on how to make friends.
9 Tips on How to Make Friends
1. Focus on being interested, not interesting
In the movie Avatar, you see how the people of Pandora are very close to each other and their planet. They are so close, in fact, that they can communicate with each other via neural body connections between their bodies and the earth. You’d like to be as connected to your friends as that.
Unfortunately, you don’t have neural body connections with anything yet so until science advances to that point, you have to do things the hard way. The next best thing is showing interest in a person when you meet them and asking them questions about themselves.
This makes it seem like you care about what they have to say and aren’t just waiting for your turn to speak so you can talk about yourself. People love talking about themselves-so when meeting someone new, try not to monopolize the conversation by making it all about you.
2. Notice people who smile at you
You can get a jump-start on meeting someone just by noticing people who smile at you. These people already like you, and when you smile back, you open up a positive interaction. Smiling is the quickest way to show kindness, as well as one of the simplest methods for nonverbal communication. Plus, smiling is contagious-others imitate smiles without even trying. So go ahead – flash your pearly whites at passersby today!
3. Seek out places where you share a common interest
Finding places where you share a common interest is a great way to meet people. You can use online communities to find others who like the same things as you, or you can look for opportunities to meet people in your community who share a common interest. In fact, you may even use friendship apps to build a connection with someone.
Searching online is also as easy as typing your interest into a search engine like Google. For example, if you enjoy knitting, type “Knitting” into the search bar and see what results pop up! Just remember that not all online communities are safe, so make sure you are using reputable websites or forums when reaching out to others.
If you’d rather meet people in person, there are plenty of options for that too. You can find events near you by searching Meetup groups or Facebook events in your area. Many cities have hobbyist groups on Facebook; these groups usually host regular meetings and events where members get together and socialize with one another.
Another option is taking classes at local parks districts or schools in your area. For example, if you love cycling but don’t have anyone else who enjoys it with you, look for local cycling clubs that offer group rides on the weekends (most local bike shops should be able to point these out). The great thing about learning new skills in classes is that everyone participating is new too- and you will automatically be surrounded by other beginners!
4. Invite those around you to pair up or join an existing group
After you’ve identified some activities of interest, it’s time to invite some friends. Don’t be afraid to invite people to join you. You will most likely be rejected a few times before someone accepts your invitation. But don’t let that deter you from asking others to join you in the future.
People can often tell if you are open and friendly, so make sure your tone and posture convey openness when inviting others to join you. Over time, this behavior can become an easier habit than it first seems. If you are shy and find it difficult to speak up in groups or ask others for favors, then practice this skill by role-playing with friends or family members before approaching strangers.
5. Overcome your fear of rejection by remembering that no one’s perfect
If you’re still feeling down about your recent rejection, think about what you could have done better this time around to avoid it, then strive to accomplish those things next time. For example, if you just got turned down for that job promotion because you didn’t give an impressive enough presentation during your interview, work on providing a more polished presentation the next time you apply for a similar position.
If a friend asked to meet up with someone but not with you, don’t take it personally. Maybe they had plans to meet up with someone else first and assumed they would be unavailable after that meeting ended, so wanted to go ahead and schedule something with them first before offering the same invitation to you.
Or perhaps they already made plans with someone else who was available this weekend instead of next weekend when you were free; there might have been no way around including one person over another friend in these circumstances if both friends were equally important to them.
6. Accept social invitations that come your way
Accept social invitations that come your way, even if they’re from people you don’t feel close to. An easy way to make new friends is by having more opportunities to meet people. It’s a lot easier than trying to create opportunities yourself. So an essential step in this process is being open and available for social events, even when you don’t feel like it or are busy with work.
It’s great if you have a regular crew of friends but don’t ignore the chance to expand your circle of acquaintances and get deeper into the lives of those outside your usual orbit. A good rule of thumb: If someone asks you out for coffee or lunch and you can fit it into your schedule, go for it. You never know what could happen, after all.
7. Take the initiative to extend a warm welcome to newcomers and first-timers
Remember that everyone who attends is in a similar situation as you. They may be feeling as nervous and uncertain as you are; they are just like you, wanting to make new friends.
Take the initiative to extend a warm welcome to newcomers and first-timers through approachable body language. Introduce yourself by name, smile, make eye contact, ask questions, and listen attentively to their responses. Don’t talk only about yourself or your own interests.
Display interest in what they have to say and ask follow-up questions so that the conversation can develop organically from there. Be kind and let them see how friendly you can be by extending a hand for them to shake with yours and giving them an easy smile when appropriate.
8. Learn to recognize when someone wants a friend and reach out to them
In a social setting, it’s important to know how to recognize when someone is looking for a friend. It may be a friendly gesture that you simply don’t understand (like the polite “Hey, can I ask you something?”), or it could be an invitation to a long-term friendship.
How do you find out if someone wants your help? The best way to initiate the conversation is with a simple “Hey!” When someone greets you and your friends with this phrase, they are friendly and happy to see you. You can then introduce yourself by saying something like “Hi, I’m new here too!” and take things from there.
9. Get out of your comfort zone
As with most things in life, one of the best ways to make friends is simply to show up. Being friendly and welcoming can go a long way when you’re searching for new pals. If you’re not typically an outgoing person, this might be a little challenging for you at first. But don’t worry! There are some ways that you can stay true to yourself while still making an effort to meet new people and create new friendships.
Additionally, creating friendships requires being open and honest with others about who you are and what’s important in your life so that they can get a sense of who you really are as a person. Don’t be afraid of sharing stories or experiences that may seem odd or different from those of someone else; these differences often bring us closer together.
Remember that nobody is perfect. So there’s no reason why anyone should expect perfection from their friends either-being yourself, flaws and all, is the best way for others to get an accurate idea about what kind of person you actually are.
To learn how to make friends, you must be in a position where you can meet new people consistently. You also have to be open to the idea of making friends and starting conversations with strangers.
If you are always holding back, then you will never make any friends. Be willing to let people into your life and allow yourself to become emotionally invested, because the more emotionally invested you are, the more likely it is that you can make true, long-lasting friendships.